#2:Top 5 Wedding Day Secrets
There is so much that goes into planning a wedding. There are many emotions that complement the hard work and the natural wedding planning cycle. The planning rhythm is a constant wave of happiness, excitement, stress, pressure, excitement, panic, and then again happiness. Those close to their wedding date know this rollercoaster well. Trying to bring so many details together for the big day, can be hard. So, for this blog, we want to take a moment to share those known wedding planning and coordination secrets. Here are our top 5:
1). You WILL forget to do something. Don’t stress, it happens! Between all the friendly suggestions, and tips, and the array of ideas from magazines and Pinterest, your ‘hope to do list’ will be forever growing. You can’t remember it all. And trying to remember it all will drive you insane. Focus on a few special details, unique touches, and added items that will compliment or enhance your big day. You may forget to take that one picture you saw on a “Top 5 Pictures Not To Miss” list, or that special pen to write your loved one a note, or special toasting glasses - or maybe it’s something as simple as putting on deodorant. It is okay! That is what your planners, coordinators and wedding party are for. To help you remember some of those small details so you can stay focused on your special day.
2) Time will fly by. Eventually, those few days before the wedding will become a blur and the wedding day will seem like a blink of an eye. Our advice to every couple is just be present. Take deep breaths and capture each moment. Take a scan of the reception room, take a moment to feel the music, to appreciate the friendly hello/congrats from each guest and embrace each moment with your new spouse. One moment you will be getting dressed for the big day, the next you will be changing out of those wedding clothes and wondering where the time went. Soak it all in and be present!
3) I’m sorry to say this – something will go wrong. We all believe all that planning will ensure our vendors arrive on time, the food will be perfect, the timeline will be fully executed, and no extra guests arrive unaccounted for. However, if you’re human, you can’t plan for everything nor can you control everything. It’s important to go into the day knowing perfection is a false expectation. Trust and rely on your coordinator, delegate, let people help, please don’t try to control the day, and did we say delegate?!? Perfection is being married to your loved one, and your guests remembering a beautiful event. We love the quote “A wedding is a party, not a performance. If at the end of the day you are married to the one that you love, then everything went perfectly!”
4) You will be exhausted. You are going to feel wiped out when the day is over. So don’t feel you have to be superman or superwoman. When the wedding is over and you are ready to go home and unwind from it all, it’s fine to call it a night. It is also okay to sleep in your wedding dress or your suit/tuxedo, to not have thanked every guest that showed up, and it’s okay that you don’t stay to help clean up (your wedding vendors should do that). Between waking up early to start getting ready, taking pictures, entertaining, and dancing the night away, you will be exhausted. Rest as much as possible the night before the big day to feel your best.
5) Remember what is important. Focus on why you are having and hosting the wedding. You are there to celebrate love and having found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Concentrate on things that do go right and don’t dwell on the things that don’t go according to plan!
The good news is ‘soon’ is now here! We are so excited to remove the “Blog Coming Soon” note.
Being in engagement season, we feel it only fitting to kick this blog off with a reflection of our experiences so far with speaking to couples about hiring a day of coordinator for their upcoming wedding. Over 300 conversations later, we have heard it all! Every reason why you do NOT need to hire a day of coordinator. Well…we are here to tell you why you SHOULD! Not just because we are awesome, but to help you avoid that common wedding regret.
When the big day comes, why do brides wish they had a coordinator? For many reasons, but we’ll share a few we have experienced so far: to handle all guest and vendor questions, to complete those last minute details, to fix those little things that WILL inevitably go wrong, to make sure the flowers at the ceremony are in place, to lay the runner, to place the centerpieces exactly where you wanted them, to coordinate and ensure champagne is popped BEFORE those amazing toasts, and most of all, so the above list doesn’t fall on parents, siblings, and best friends. Doesn’t that sound better?
You can read Martha Stewart Weddings, Bride & Groom, or Brides Magazine and they will provide checklist upon checklist for couples planning their own wedding. Then you add Pinterest and wedding websites and there is definitely no shortage of self-help tools. The question is, who ensures all that hard work and all those details come to life on your wedding day? Who ensures your focus is on the celebration, your partner, and your family? Again, your answer shouldn’t be mom, your best friend, an aunt, or your sister. Those VIPs all have other very important duties - celebrating, experiencing, and embracing this special event with you, not working. So who then? Your coordinators do! That’s our job! Our job is to be your vendor liaison, bring your vision to life, tie last minute details together, handle the crises (Murphy’s law, there will be crises) and reduce wedding day stress. Our goal as coordinators is to let our professional experience enhance you and your guest’s event experience. After all that hard work, the cost of not having a coordinator could be more than having one!